Often when we talk to people about opportunities we provide, they start considering the cost – the monetary cost and the cost of their time. But people often don’t consider the cost of sameness. What is the cost of staying the same? Let’s talk about it.
First let’s assume that there is a part of you that is good, noble, gracious and loving that wants the highest good for other people. This is the part of you that if given the chance, you would end homelessness, end sex trafficking, and people would have the opportunity to go to college, This part of you wants to mentor people, and have people know deep inside their true value and worth. For you specifically, maybe it’s something not listed here, but it’s something that breaks your heart whenever you see it, and it would make your heart sing and you would dance for joy if you were able to do something about it.
Now in this context, what’s the cost of staying the same? It’s a huge loss. Let’s look at some specifics.
1. A part of you dies
When you ignore that part of you that wants the highest good for other people, that part of you dies a little bit each day. You end up burring your passions and your dreams.
I often encounter people who have buried their passions for so long that they can’t find anything they’re passionate about. They just don’t care any more. They live in their neighborhood because it’s close to work. They work at their job because it’s convenient, and was easy to get. When I ask what breaks their heart or what gets them excited, they think for a bit and answer, “I got nothing.”
This is a deep heavy cost.
2. You miss out on deep joy
One of the sources of deep joy is in knowing that your life matters. When you know that as a result of your life, others are transformed, there is a deep sense of satisfaction.
If you could say, “because I shared my experience, thousands of marriages are now thriving,” or ” because of me, hundreds of kids stayed in school,” or “I have helped transform the cultural environment of 3 large companies,” or whatever it would be for you, it wouldn’t matter if you were in the middle of a bad day. You will still carry around this sense of rightness about your life that rough spots won’t hinder.
But if you stick with sameness, you miss out on this.
3. You end with regret
When we are at the end of our life, our deepest regret will be that we played it safe and didn’t risk enough. We’ll regret that we settled for easy, and didn’t go after what we care about. There may even be a sense that we squandered much of our life on things that didn’t matter much.
I’m not making this part up, or just repeating what I’ve heard. I’ve experienced this when I thought my life might end in 2005. It’s not a good feeling as we’re thinking, “I wish I had done it differently.”
4. Others miss out
Probably the most devastating cost is in all those people who won’t be transformed by us. In many cases, we are the right people to connect with someone and be the difference in their life. Someone else may not step up for them. Other people might be thinking the same thing that someone else will do it, and there is no ‘someone else.’
There will be cases when you are the right person at the right time for someone, but if you chose sameness, you are likely to miss this, and so will that someone.
If you are ready to connect to your passions, bring your life into focus, live on purpose, and make a meaningful impact in the world, then our upcoming two day seminar is a perfect place for you to start. You can register here. We want to make it easy for you to say, ‘yes.’ So, use the code: SGL300 to receive a special discount of $300 from us.
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