We are stuck in our heads. We spend a lot of our time on our electronics taking in information from Facebook, Twitter, Internet news, product reviews, and the latest jokes being passed around. The nightly news reports on events. Then the analyst comes on explaining all the things that will result from the events. Economists […]
Sometimes I worry that I will be acceptable to other people and so I attempt to present a version of myself that I think others will like. I hide myself and present a false self. Sure parts of me are there – the parts I think you’ll accept and like, but the rest stays hidden. […]
Fear Often while we think we’re playing it safe we are just avoiding fear. We are afraid of many things, but at it’s heart we are afraid of losing love and acceptance. For example, we are afraid: to look foolish – we might be shunned of failing – we’ll be labeled a looser of saying […]
No one likes going through tough times. Sometimes, they are just unavoidable. While we may really want to move forward on finding and living our calling, tough times may require us to slow down our pursuits or even put them on hold. We might need to wait it out. Following are some ideas on how […]
Failure sounds like such a bad thing. We have come to see it differently, though. I’m not saying that it’s good that the goal wasn’t achieved. That’s a bummer. However, failure often comes with some additional bonuses, for example: A failed diet can teach us what works and what doesn’t work for us. A failed […]
No wonder people want to be “normal.” Most terms that refer to the opposite of “normal” have negative connotations, like “strange,” “weird” and “freak.” But to me and to other like-minded people “normal”has a negative flavor instead. When I hear “normal,”I think“average” or, even worse, “mediocre.” I cringe at the thought of those words being […]
The last two times I talked about types of help that are harmful either to the giver or the receiver. This time I am pulling it all together and sharing what amazingly awesome generosity looks like. Amazingly awesome generosity has the following attributes: It’s given for the right reason. It doesn’t leave us (the giver) in […]
Last time we talked about help that harms the recipient. Today we will talk about help that harms us, the giver. Sometimes outside influences result in harmful helping, but sometimes we are the culprits. Here are a few indicators that our generosity might be harming ourselves. 1. We feel guilty for not giving When we […]
Sometimes we give help that harms the other person. We think we’re helping, but what we’re doing is more like giving a drunk a drink. We have discovered a cause about which we are passionate, and we want to make a difference, but if we’re not careful, our help can do more harm than good. […]
Problem-solving can be tough. Have you ever struggled with finding a good solution to a difficult problem? Hammering a crooked nail is no fun. There has to be other options. The Problem with Problems In problem solving, there are more potential solutions than people realize. People often inadvertently limit themselves to just one or two […]
