John Bonesio

Little Johnny watches his friends bounce back and forth, up and down on the teeter totter. It looks like fun. So after his friends leave, he tries it. He sits on the seat and jumps, only it’s not going like he saw with his friends. Johnny jumps, grunts and, struggles, and even throws a nice … Read more

I’ve heard conflicting advice about letting your emotions into the decision making process or not. I’ve heard people say that never ever should you let emotions decide anything. And I’ve heard credible folks say that the best decisions are made by listening to your emotions. Observations Most people I bump into in my circles say … Read more

Perhaps you have a goal, and perhaps you’ve had this goal for years. You work at the goal, you make some progress, and then you regress only to work more at the goal. The goal seems really hard. Maybe it’s weight loss, or maybe it’s your overall fitness, or maybe you’ve had this financial goal … Read more

There’s an epidemic going around. I’ve caught it too. It’s the great telling disease. This is the disease where we think we can teach and influence people by telling them something. We think, “If I just tell them this great information I know, they’ll have a break through.” Then we languish in frustration as no … Read more

I’ve heard this phrase before, “Hurt people hurt people,” and when I heard it, I always thought it was talking about somebody else. I now know that we are often blind to the hurts that we are creating. I now understand that this phrase isn’t talking about in general terms that people accidentally hurt each other occasionally. The … Read more

You might say, “Today is a bad day,” or “Today was a good day.” What makes it a good day or a bad day? My guess is that it would be something like this: if your boss was short with you or yelled at you, if your friend skipped out on your lunch appointment, if … Read more

Often I see people emphasize quality, which is great. Yet I think people are confused about how quality is created. People emphasize quality over quantity. “I’ll won’t spend a lot of time with my kids. I’ll just make sure the time I do spend is quality time.” “We don’t want to spend time rewriting or … Read more

Things in our life continue on as they always have been. Our life gets into a rut. We encounter the same problems over and over again until one day we experience a shift. Our way of thinking about something shifts. All of a sudden we let go of that fear we’ve been holding. Or something … Read more

There are a lot of people going broke saving money. If you are one of these people, I’m not picking on you. In fact, I’d like to help your situation get better. I bring up this phrase, “going broke saving money” because it’s a small example that relates to other parts of our life. Let’s … Read more

“I’ll do (fill in the blank) when things settle down.” We hear this a lot … and I’d be lying if I said I’ve never done this myself. When things settle down, I’ll talk to that person. When things settle down, I’ll get married. When things settle down, we’ll have kids. When things settle down, … Read more