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The Impact Hour: How to be More Hearable

On this week’s episode of The Impact Hour, How to be More Hearable. Click here to listen. Do you ever feel like people don’t hear you? Perhaps you can be more “hearable” so people will be more receptive to what you say. We will explore a couple examples like giving useful feedback and sharing your […]

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Getting Out of the Crazy Conflict Cycle

Getting Out of the Crazy Conflict Cycle

Last week I talked about the crazy conflict cycle. I described how judgment produces resistance and justification in the other person, and that justification gives rise to judgment in return. This week I want to talk about how to get out of the crazy conflict cycle. Often we get into the cycle because we have […]

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Happy birthday to The Impact Hour!

On this week’s episode of The Impact Hour, Happy birthday to The Impact Hour! We started the show a year ago, so it’s time to celebrate! Click here to listen. We’ll take a look at this past year and what it takes to make more of a positive impact. We covered a lot of topics […]

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The Crazy Conflict Cycle

Most of us want to have deeper connections and better relationships, but it’s difficult, if not impossible, to have this when we are engaged in the crazy conflict cycle. The Crazy Conflict Cycle Defined First let me describe this crazy cycle. Judgement —> Resistance —> Justification —> (back to) Judgement The cycle can start anywhere, […]

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Changeable

What is Changeable?

I grew up being told that a whole lot about me is fixed and unchangeable. I was told that my IQ is fixed, my personality is fixed, and my temperament is fixed. But I’ve since changed most of those things in myself. Almost everything is changeable and very little about us is fixed. I suspect […]

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The Impact Hour: The Experience You Create

On this week’s episode of The Impact Hour, The Experience You Create. Click here to listen. How you think and how you choose to respond powerfully creates your experience of life. Furthermore, you help shape other people’s experiences, too. Learn how to create better experiences for yourself and others–such as more positivity and more possibility. […]

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Being Heard and Understood

We all have an innate need to be heard and understood. When we feel heard and understood we feel valued and loved. However, we often don’t feel heard and understood. Let’s look at what might be going on. There are 2 big factors that play a part in our not being heard and understood. Understand First […]

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