John Bonesio

I know, it sounds weird. We don’t usually write articles on living small. But there must be some value in it. Otherwise, no one would live a small life. First let me describe the small life. A very small life is to live only for yourself. You make money for you. You go on vacation … Read more

Sometimes we get stuck in a moment. We have something happen to us, and it gets a hold of us, We get stuck in that moment. It could be the time we were ridiculed in front of our classmates in school. Maybe it was a time we were betrayed by someone we trusted. Or perhaps … Read more

The saying goes, “Give me a lever long enough and I can move the world.” Leverage can be a bad thing when it refers to manipulating people into doing what we want. Today, though, I want to talk about a different kind of leverage. With good leverage, we can do a whole lot more than … Read more

We like shiny glossy things. I remember a while ago I was looking to purchase a new flat screen TV. Reviewers were lamenting the demise of matte screens. They said that the matte screens were easier to view – especially in highly lit rooms. But because the glossy screens looked more, well, shiny, they sold … Read more

We all respond to life’s events and life’s messages in different ways. I find that people can become bitter, numb, better, or grander. Bitter Some of us have life come at us, and we become bitter. Life disappoints us. Our job is less than fulfilling. Our marriage is a lot more mundane than we envisioned. … Read more

Often times we talk about other people engaging in self sabotage. We shake our heads and click our tongues. What a shame – what a waste. What’s wrong with that person? The truth, however, is that we all engage in self sabotage at times. Avoidance Self sabotage shows up in a number of ways. One … Read more

We all have this idea of what ordinary people do and don’t do, and if we find someone living a bigger life, well they’re not ordinary. Ordinary is us and “extraordinary” must mean someone else. But this concept is a lie. We have this stratification view of people. We think things like: There are the … Read more

Imagine you are a sail boat. You’ve been built for the high seas, and grand adventures. You’re all ready to set sail, but you don’t know where to go. Italy would be fun. But maybe the first trip should be to France. No, wait, England! It’s got to be England! No Italy would be better … Read more

There are many things we each pursue in life. We each have a different definition of what “winning” looks like in life. Sometimes we aren’t even consciously aware of what it means for us to win. Sometimes we react and respond without considering what is driving our actions. Normal For a lot of us winning … Read more