John Bonesio

I grew up with a need to be right – at all costs. I’m still struggling with this. If the thoughts I share are dismissed, or rejected out of hand, it spins me out. It’s one of my deep push-buttons. I take it personally – as if you aren’t just rejecting my ideas but are … Read more

In the world there are low functioning and high functioning people. Being low functioning or high functioning has a lot to do with emotional intelligence. Low and High Functioning Really low functioning people act on emotions without thinking. An extreme example might be: In traffic, a car cuts off Bob. Bob gets angry and chases … Read more

There is a belief out there that people will only change when it’s a change or die scenario. Folks in business use this belief to motivate people to do things they want. They tell you that if you don’t do _______, there will be dire consequences. This idea is called The Burning Platform. The burning … Read more

In 1943 Abraham Maslow came up with his hierarchy of needs. Many of you probably already know it. It goes like the following from most urgent, most basic on up: Physical (air, food, shelter, clothing, etc.) Safety (from violence, war, abuse, natural disasters, etc.) Social (love and belonging, friendships, intimacy, etc.) Esteem (self-esteem, respect, confidence, … Read more

In a semi-recent survey, Allstate found that most people think they’re great drivers, while they question the driving ability of those around them. We find that this sort of outlook doesn’t just apply to driving. Often people are thinking, “I’m fine. It’s everybody else that’s the problem.” Blaming If you look at this from an … Read more

What we focus on has an enormous influence over our experience of life. And often we get into focusing on all the problems. We talk about how bad is the economy, how horrible is ISIS, and Ebola is going to eat our children. While these things are horrible, it doesn’t have to be the focus … Read more

We keep talking about the things you need to do to find your calling. But you may ask, “How can I know when I’ve found my calling and stop looking?” Well, I’m glad you asked. Indicators You can know you’ve found your calling when you think or say the following: I am really good at … Read more

My older son broke his arm about a month ago, and since then he has had this protective shield around his arm. With the cast, he hasn’t been able to do some things and some things he still can do but are more difficult. Well today he is getting his cast off. I was thinking … Read more

When I had my heart attack in 2005, I had a thought after I was back home from the hospital. What if I had died, but had come back to life somehow? What if my old life had completely ended, and I could live in a new way outside of all the constraints of my … Read more