Author Archive | John Bonesio

Have you thought about what might be your life’s work? What is your main contribution to the world? How would you rate your contribution to the world? What you do for yourself, dies with you. What you do for others, lives on. What would you like to live on after your time here on Earth? […]

Have you ever had a recurring problem or issue in your life? You think, “this again?” Maybe you’ve moved cities or states (you pulled a “geographic”) and the problem keeps coming back. I know I have. I had conflict at work. I figured it was other people being whacked out, but after it kept coming […]

Have you ever been in a situation where there was a problem and your thought was, “Oh man! This again?” I have. I remember being at work and having yet more conflict. Others at work seemed to get along, but not me. No matter where I worked, I seemed to always have at least one […]

On this week’s episode of The Impact Hour, How to Have More of a Positive Impact. Click here to listen. You can have more of a positive impact in your life. It starts with being truly present with yourself and with other people, then add in a generous dose of compassion. Next, if you’re ready, […]

On this week’s episode of The Impact Hour, How to be More Hearable. Click here to listen. Do you ever feel like people don’t hear you? Perhaps you can be more “hearable” so people will be more receptive to what you say. We will explore a couple examples like giving useful feedback and sharing your […]

Last week I talked about the crazy conflict cycle. I described how judgment produces resistance and justification in the other person, and that justification gives rise to judgment in return. This week I want to talk about how to get out of the crazy conflict cycle. Often we get into the cycle because we have […]

On this week’s episode of The Impact Hour, Happy birthday to The Impact Hour! We started the show a year ago, so it’s time to celebrate! Click here to listen. We’ll take a look at this past year and what it takes to make more of a positive impact. We covered a lot of topics […]

Most of us want to have deeper connections and better relationships, but it’s difficult, if not impossible, to have this when we are engaged in the crazy conflict cycle. The Crazy Conflict Cycle Defined First let me describe this crazy cycle. Judgement —> Resistance —> Justification —> (back to) Judgement The cycle can start anywhere, […]

I grew up being told that a whole lot about me is fixed and unchangeable. I was told that my IQ is fixed, my personality is fixed, and my temperament is fixed. But I’ve since changed most of those things in myself. Almost everything is changeable and very little about us is fixed. I suspect […]